Some Things to consider when having a conversation with someone about a contentious topic October, 2017 ~Wayne David Schmoyer Principle A : When anyone is urgently expressing something verbally the surface message about their chosen topic may or may not be worded the way they want to say it – But what they think the topic MEANS to them is the important thing behind the surface message. So: 1] Try not to argue with the surface meaning and 2] try to learn what the meaning of the topic is for them . Principle B : The goal of communication is to share ideas , not to disprove others ideas. Principle C : Effective two way communication will bring about a sense of relief for both parties; if it doesn't then it is not effective . STEPS: ONE: REMEMBER that you have no obligation to engage in a debate just because you disagree with the other person; reserve the right to just listen and get more information. TWO: You should respond b
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